When you hear the words "vanilla sex", what do you think of? Seems like a random term to you? Some think that it is not something interesting, rather boring and practiced by people of certain age groups. But, you are still very far from the truth!
"The word vanilla is used in the kink community as a way to distinguish regular sex from kinky, fetishistic, or BDSM environments (Refers to a range of sexual preferences generally related to the pleasure of physical control, psychological control, and /or pain," says Sarah Melancon, sexologist for SexToyCollective. "Adding this term is important because it helps differentiate what sex looks like to different people," she explains.
"People who practice vanilla sex don't really call it that, they just call it sex," says Melancon.
What is vanilla sex?
Përkufizimi i seksit vanilje mund të jetë subjektiv, por në përgjithësi, është çdo gjë që ka të bëjë me aktin bazik. “Disa njerëz e përkufizojnë atë vetëm si marrëdhënie penis-vaginë, por shumë individë do ta zgjeronin atë duke përfshirë edhe seksin oral”, thotë Gigi Engle, një eksperte për seksin dhe intimitetin për platformën 3Fun. "Është seksi juaj standard, në thelb."
Por, pse vanilje? "Etimologët(ata që studiojnë origjinën e fjalëve) kanë debatuar për origjinën e këtij togfjalëshi dhe shumica e historianëve të seksit pajtohen se bota e çuditshme rreth viteve 1970 merr meritën për përdorimin e termit vanilje që i referohet seksit konvencional", thotë Gloria Brame, një terapiste seksi dhe autore e librit “Different Loving Too: Real People, Real Lives, Real BDSM”.
Cilat janë përfitimet e seksit vanilje?
No matter what kind of sex you have, the most important thing is that it is enjoyable. But if you haven't had much vanilla sex, there are some potential benefits, so you should give it a try. The simplicity of engaging in vanilla sex can be a different approach in the bedroom. "You revel in your ability to experience sexual sensations by enjoying an experience. It's really intimate and helps us be more present in the act and feel another level of connection with our partner," says sex therapist Melancon.
