Every relationship has several important stages, which, of course, depending on the couple, sometimes pass quickly and sometimes take all the time in the world. However, when it comes to the proposal, the question always arises: "Is this the right moment?" and if you're experiencing these 10 signs, maybe the perfect moment hasn't come yet:
You are still in the "honeymoon period"
According to Lori Kret, expert and licensed therapist for relationships, she says that: "In the first months of the relationship, specifically in 6 months - 2 years, a phase is experienced which is guided by the seduction hormone. Things may seem perfect and you'll marry the person you're connected to right away, but chemistry isn't a surefire indicator of a long-term relationship. In many ways, the immediate connection is superficial", adding that afterwards, people begin to understand what are the "defects" of the person with whom they have created a relationship.
You don't know the other person very well
The mystery can be a bit sexy at the beginning of the relationship, but if you have taken the relationship seriously, you should know a lot about your partner, so that you won't be surprised later.
The relationship seems uncertain and unstable
It is very important that you feel secure in the relationship before taking the step of proposing. Especially, when you don't have 100% trust in your partner, or when you think that you are not on the same page about many things.
You haven't met his/her family, friends and inner circle yet
If you are going to take a big step with your partner, you must definitely become a part of his life, which means: Getting to know family members, friends, colleagues, the people with whom you spend the most time. If you haven't met them yet, maybe it's too early to take another step.
You didn't talk about the future in detail
Dëgjo, besoj jemi të gjithë shumë të rritur që të planifikojmë jetën me këto fjali: “Dua të martohem dhe të kem fëmijë me ty. Të kemi një gocë e një çun. Goca të ketë sytë dhe buzët e tua dhe karakterin tim”. Nëse po mendon të fejohesh/martohesh, duhet ta planifikosh mirë të ardhmen, të flasësh për financat, për shtëpinë dhe gjëra shumë të rëndësishme.
Ndihesh si në presion për të marrë vendimin
Prindërit dhe miqtë të pyesin shumë shpesh se kur do të fejohesh/martohesh? Nëse ti ndihesh i/e pasigurt për të propozuar, por e ndien si detyrim nga presioni i vazhdueshëm, të sugjerojmë të mos e bësh. Fundja, është jeta jote dhe duhet të të burojë nga zemra ky vendim.
Keni probleme shumë të rëndësishme për të zgjidhur
Nëse keni probleme të vazhdueshme, të cilat vërtiten rreth të njëjtës çështjeje, para se të merrni një tjetër hap, duhet të zgjidhni sfidat aktuale.
Ende s’jeni përballur me një konflikt të madh
Konfliktet e mëdha përcaktojnë nëse një lidhje është e qëndrueshme dhe mund të ketë të ardhme. Nëse ende nuk je përballur me një debat të “rëndë”, mbase ende s’e ke provuar qëndrueshmërinë e lidhjes.
Nuk ke një lidhje të fortë me partnerin/en
You can have amazing sex and be super attracted to your partner, but unless you've made a beautiful and meaningful emotional and spiritual connection, we think engagement/marriage is a bit of a rash decision.
You have a feeling that "it's too soon"
When you are in a dilemma about the right moment to propose, listen to your intuition and inner voice. The body and mind have several other reactions when you think about the proposal, so focus on those. If, for example, when you think about the proposal, you experience anxiety, sweaty hands, or feel as if your body is not in the usual state, maybe you are not yet ready for a proposal.
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