If fights in your relationship are frequent, then don't be lazy, but read these 7 tips from couples therapists:
1. Take a deep breath
If you are angry with your partner, try to take a deep breath. This will help you not to rush, get carried away by the momentary anger and come back to reality. After that, the reaction will be very different from the initial one.
2. Consider discussing the conflict later
If you are at work, or arguing virtually, try to postpone the discussion until later. Thus, both of you will be calmer, more reasonable and you will be able to clarify in front of you.
3. Do not deviate from the topic!
There is an underlying problem that has led you to a fight. Do not reopen issues of the past, but insist on solving the problem of the present. Every time you deviate from the topic, think of Blendi Fevziu with a stick, which says: "Pushuoo Laaaame, puusho!".
4. Don't fight to win
A relationship is not a battlefield. If your partner's arguments make more sense, maybe you should back off and apologize.
5. Listen carefully to your partner
Don't create a script and act on it. Listen to what the other person is saying and weigh the explanations and arguments.
6. Use the word "I"
If you are having a conversation about a difficult topic, then always speak in the first person. Bonus? Tell specific situations and your feelings. The more examples you bring, the clearer you will be!
7. Find a golden mean
If the debate is constructive, then you will both learn. Find a golden mean that works and serves both parties. Thus, you will achieve even more tolerance and understanding in the relationship.
