Family is precious and irreplaceable, but sometimes toxic. With the passing of years and the teaching of the mindset that the family is an unshakable institution, these toxic behaviors have become normalized, but this does not negate the fact that these behaviors affect its members.
The idea that you don't have to contradict your parents
If you have a different opinion or disagree, it is more normal to oppose your parents. They want the best for you, but they don't necessarily know what's best for you.
You have to tolerate those who hurt you because they are "your blood"
Emotional or physical injury remains a long-term trauma, so maybe the family should think that they should not hurt you for the same reason, because it is "your blood".
Parents expect their children to obey them because "that's what they say"
This is not an argument.
Violating others' boundaries
Boundaries, whether privacy, the desire to experience a romantic relationship without parental supervision, or even respect for children, are often violated with the excuse of "control".
Acting like everything is fine
There are many cases when parents abuse their children, judge them, compare them, cause trauma and act as if everything is going well. This causes children to suppress their feelings for a long time and then face anger control problems.
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