Due to the lack of comprehensive and accessible sex education, it can be difficult to obtain useful and accurate information about sex. That's why the work of sex therapists like Joy Berkheimer is so important. They fill these gaps and provide their clients with tailored, accessible and accurate information to improve their sex lives.
And this does not apply to couples. Berkheimer says most of her clients are single women — and these are the three questions she gets the most from them.
#1 – Why can't I experience orgasm?
According to Berkheimer, many questions are related to orgasm. First, the question is, 'why don't I experience orgasm with another person?'.
Usually, the therapist asks if the person experiences orgasm when masturbating. If the answer is yes, then the patient should be worked on to understand what is missing when the patient has sex with someone.
Achieving orgasm can be difficult for a variety of reasons, and Berkheimer says there are also people who have never experienced orgasm or who don't like solo sex. Because they are not sure what they like, they are unable to communicate their desires to their partners. The latter is also related to "shame" and the feeling of discomfort when talking about sex.
#2 - Why do I want to have sex so much and/or so often?
Berkheimer says that people are generally curious about how their sex appetite compares to others, and that many questions revolve around whether they are just the right amount or too much (of course, there is no right or correct amount).
Similarly, people wonder if they have a sex addiction because they want to have sex so much or so often.
Berkheimer says she's reluctant to label someone's desire for sex as an addiction unless it meets very specific criteria; she explains that different sexologists and therapists use different frameworks to identify sex addiction.
"If it's preventing you from doing normal things in your life, then it's a problem," she says. "An addiction is a dysfunction."
#3 - Why can't I get wet enough during sex?
There are many reasons for vaginal dryness including: fear, stress, dehydration, hormones, medical reasons, and medications one may be taking. It can also have to do with someone's mind being elsewhere during sex, she says.
Whatever the reason, if something is going on in your brain, it can also affect your sexual organs. The body, genitals and brain are very connected.
Source: Well & Good
