A century of psychological research shows that possessing high levels of general intelligence (represented by intelligence quotient, or IQ) is advantageous, leading to better academic performance and job success. However, there is another type of intelligence that is also related to success in life, and that is social intelligence.
In 1920, psychologist Edward Thorndike defined social intelligence as the ability to understand and manage others, as well as to act intelligently in social situations.
While IQ is largely innate, social intelligence develops over time, through the experience of interacting with people in different social situations.
Another way to think about social intelligence is "street smarts" or "common sense."
Emotional intelligence - the ability to communicate emotionally and understand the dynamics of human emotions - is an offshoot of social intelligence.
Let's look at other components of social intelligence:
Conversational Skills: A person with social intelligence learns how to engage and engage others in interesting and stimulating conversations. They are tactful in what they say and keep the conversation interesting and within the boundaries of what is appropriate for the given social situation.
Listening skills: Someone with social intelligence is a great listener, pays attention to what others are saying and makes them feel understood.
Public Speaking Ability: People with social intelligence have more experience in public speaking, are more likely to have been elected to an office, and hold leadership positions.
How can you develop social intelligence?
Understand that it takes a lot of work. Start by paying more attention to the social world around you. Work on becoming a better speaker or conversationalist.
Work to become a more effective listener through what's called "active listening," where you reflect back on what you believe the speaker said to ensure clear understanding. Most importantly, study your social situations and behavior. Learn from your social successes and failures.
