Although the holidays are supposed to be fun and bring the family together, there are still members of the family or tribe who know no boundaries and won't stop asking you questions about your romantic life, work, and even your salary.
To cope with this atmosphere as best as possible, the therapist Tina Alvarado comes to your aid, who advises you to do the following, instead of arguing with the relative in question:
Understand your feelings
If you feel irritated or stressed, it's normal.
If you find that you can't handle the pressure your family is putting you under, take a short break, make a phone call, or drink something to help you get back to your best form.
But most importantly, do not ignore your emotions, as they will translate into an explosion that will surprise everyone, even yourself.
Set boundaries
If you have an aunt who keeps asking you when you're getting married, or a grandmother who makes rude comments about how much food you're eating, don't hesitate to put up barriers.
You can start with a polite sentence that implies you understand his/her curiosity, but you simply don't have to answer.
An example: "I understand that you are curious, but I don't want to discuss this topic now."
Only go to parties/family/cousins ??where you feel comfortable
Një faktor i zakonshëm i stresit të festave është se ti mundohesh t’u bësh qejfin të gjithëve dhe të shkosh kudo.
Duhet ta dish ku të ndalosh dhe të shkosh vetëm te njerëzit që i viziton me qejf dhe mbi të gjitha, as nuk duan ta dinë sa lekë merr te puna e re.
Kupto kur duhet të çohesh
Mos u mundo të rrish një javë apo muaj të tërë në shtëpi, apo të shkosh për vizitë tek të gjithë.
Gjithashtu, kur situata bëhet e sikletshme, apo kur qartazi, është momenti për t’u çuar nga tryeza, mos u përpiq ta shtysh veprimin.
Merr kohën e duhur për t’u qetësuar
Ndonjëherë, stresi të kap në befasi dhe ajo që mund të bësh ti, është të ruash qetësinë dhe veçanërisht, të marrësh kohën e duhur për t’u qetësuar.
Fli, shih një film komedi, dëgjo muzikë që të lumturon, ha diçka të mirë dhe mos e injoro nevojën e trurit për një pauzë.
Ndrysho tematikën
The evil of family members? They don't know when to stop asking questions.
The good of family members? They are easily distracted. So, pick a topic that has the family's attention and give it a go!
Observe the situation
If all else fails and the family member just doesn't know when to stop and insist, just don't talk and observe the situation. The less you engage in the conversation, the more comfortable they will leave you.
Behave well
Focus on politeness and consider age, mindset and relationship, but again, set appropriate boundaries!
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