We can hear the word toxic as many times as we hear "good morning" or "goodbye". Let's face it, we've all abused the term a bit because not all of us know exactly what makes you toxic or non-toxic.
There is no clear definition of such a word any more than there is for "narcissists", but we as a society associate it with being "attached". That said, the word toxic leaves room for interpretation. In fact, when we call someone "toxic" we start from the way they made us feel, but what does it really mean to be like that?
Obviously there are many ways to be perceived as such because human relationships are complex and delicate at the same time. To understand if this person near you was like that or not, answer the following questions:
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Do I feel better or worse about my life in general after spending time with this person?
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Do I find myself ignoring calls, texts, or canceling appointments with this person?
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Has the presence of this man made me good or bad?
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Do you feel used and pressured after a long conversation with him?
If the answer to most of these questions is yes, then dig a little deeper. Maybe they're not "toxic," but they're not your best friends. For example, if a friend of yours always remembers to do her a favor but is never there for you, she is not necessarily a toxic person, your relationship is.
This whole process will help us grow and not use terms that do not belong to the person or the situation in which we are.
Source: Huffington Post
