Mistake No. 1: Taking out all the stress on your partner
All of us at some point are nervous and ready to vent on the first person in front of us. In most cases, our partner appears before our eyes, but if you have children, think twice before speaking. You have to keep in mind that children notice everything. They notice how we behave in a stressful situation, how we react when we are tense and this affects them significantly.
If you set a good example by showing them how to manage their emotions, they will follow suit.
Mistake #2: Trying to resolve a dispute when you are angry
We know you may feel the urgent need to resolve a conflict when you are very, very nervous, but take a deep breath. This will not get you anywhere as much as you will give the little ones a bad model to follow in solving problems. Remember that your partners are not your enemies, you are both on the same team.
Mistake no. 3: You don't kiss/caress in front of children
Sometimes children see you fighting in front of them, but less so when you kiss and show affection for each other in front of them. Make sure the children see you as needed, despite any conflict that is normal within the family.
Mistake no. 4: Blame your partner instead of taking responsibility
You are not setting a good example if you blame your child's father or mother! Keep in mind that you have a child in front of you and you should not burden him emotionally with problems that do not belong to him.
Mistake no. 5: You don't communicate your needs clearly
When you are frustrated it seems easier to stay silent than to argue and express all your dissatisfaction to your partner. What happens is that there comes a moment when you can explode for everything you have accumulated and create anxiety in the children.
Mistake no. 6: Holding a different standard for children than you hold for yourself
If you tell your child not to interrupt someone when they are talking and you interrupt your partner when they are talking, what lesson are you teaching them? If you tell him that it is unethical to be arrogant with others and use wild language with people, what is the value of lectures? The child should reflect your standard, so be careful!
Source: Huffington Post
