Would you move into an apartment without seeing it first if it's for rent? Would you like to park in a place that is not free? Would you wear a pair of underwear without first making sure no one else had worn them before? Of course not!
First, you would make sure of the availability and then you would go into action. It may not have occurred to you, but this is also the first rule you should consider before starting a romantic relationship with someone.
You need to know if the person you are dating is there, present and available to you in every way and not just physically. Wanting to get to know someone doesn't mean you're romantically available. There are those who are in a relationship and although they insist that they are present, they really are not.
1. When someone is still in love with someone, they can't be there for you
Despite your wishes and efforts, if the other person thinks or feels about someone other than you, it is difficult for your relationship to be complete. The relationship will have many "cracks" that will get worse over time if things aren't talked about and you don't communicate.
2. When someone is addicted to narcotic substances/alcohol, etc. they cannot be available for romantic relationships.
Because he is simply not present emotionally and mentally in those moments.
3. If he/she is guided by a fear that comes as a result of a trauma, he/she cannot be present.
A painful breakup that is still an open wound causes problems in the new acquaintance. A betrayal, divorce or simply the fear of being 100% involved make it impossible for the relationship to be healthy.
4. If he is in a relationship, forget it - he cannot be present with you
Despite the declarations of love, dating someone who is in another relationship at the same time as you - will cause you problems and most likely, a broken heart in the end.
5. When he says I'm not ready, believe him because it's probably not true!
Even if you pair wonderfully well with each other, sometimes it's just not the right time. Timing is the key element that makes a relationship work or not. For a relationship to be healthy, you both need to be willing to put each other at the top of your priority list, so be selective.
Source: Psychology Today
