For women who are in relationships with younger men/boys there is always some kind of prejudice or fear. It's always that friend who asks, "Isn't he too immature?"
Prejudice happens, of course, even with celebrities. When Olivia Wilde made public the relationship with Harry Styles, the singer 10 years younger - the reactions were harsh and surprisingly, the person (most) judged was the actress.
And while there's a long list of gender-related double standards in relationships that still exist in 2022, it's safe to say that older-boy relationships are culturally acceptable for women. Until now.
According to TikTok, the "older man" or "younger woman" standard is out of fashion. Viral videos circulate on the platform with titles like "The Benefits of Dating a Guy Younger Than You" and content includes: open-mindedness, willingness to try new things, more feminist worldviews and — as a viral TikTok joke – hair, lots of hair!
Celebrities who have joined the trend, from Kim K and Pete Davidson, who have a 13-year age gap, to newlywed Britney Spears, 40, and husband Sam Asghari, 28, show that a younger man , not only is it "approved" by Tik Tok, but it also works in real life. Who would care?!
It's also worth noting that Match did a survey in 2020 that found 81% of women are open to dating someone 10 years younger than them. And for men? 90% would like to date a woman 10 years older.
In the case of Caitlin, a 31-year-old who met a 26-year-old boy, things went well. She was pleasantly surprised by him. What he liked the most was the desire to always do new things in their meetings, and no, we are not just talking about "sexual things".
Not only was he innovative with dating, but he was also looking for something more serious, says Caitlin.
"Before I knew him, if you had told me that any man in his mid-20s would love this, I would have laughed."
The two have been together since that night in the bar, where they met.
According to Natalie Logan, director of communications at Bumble, this could be due to a global increase in 'meaningful dating' after quarantines and lockdowns around the world, regardless of age. In a recent survey of over 8,000 app users, more than half (59%) of Bumble users said they are now more direct with partners about what they're looking for.
Kate Balestrieri, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, says there's a reason this dynamic works so well in the bedroom.
“Gratë në të 30-at, kanë më shumë gjasa të jenë në kulmin e tyre seksual,” thotë ajo për Bustle. “Ato gjithashtu dinë më shumë për atë që pëlqejnë dhe duan gjatë seksit dhe mund të ndihen më rehat duke e kërkuar.”
Sipas Balesterierit, djemtë më të rinj mund të jenë më të hapur për të dëgjuar në krahasim me bashkëmoshatarët e këtyre grave, të cilët (me vetëdije ose pa vetëdije) mund të ndihen më të pasigurt ose të përqendruar në kënaqësinë e tyre.
“Plus, meshkujt në të 20-at janë më afër kulmit të tyre seksual, që do të thotë se mund të ketë më shumë sinergji rreth dëshirës së dy palëve për seks.”
Ajo gjithashtu vë në dukje se dëshira e tyre për të kënaqur partneren mund të jetë për shkak se burrat që tani janë në fillim të mesit të të 20-tave u rritën me më shumë ekspozim ndaj barazisë gjinore dhe përmbajtjes seksuale pozitive.
Këshilla e saj për këdo që është i interesuar të eksplorojë një marrëdhënie seksuale ose emocionale me dikë më të ri është që të injorojë çdo stigmë dhe thjesht ta bëjë atë, gjithmonë nëse e ndjen dhe jo sepse “ky është trendi”.
Burimi: Bustle
