#1. "Men are not emotional"
It is true that they often try to hide their emotions in public, but this has nothing to do with not being emotional. They don't always know how to express them properly or they often put up barriers and don't show their true emotional needs. In most cases, the need for emotional connection translates into other forms where sex is of course involved.
#2. "Men really don't want intimacy!"
Of course, they want to have a close and intimate relationship with their friends or partner, but often they don't have the experience and the right language to ask for it properly.
Again, sex is the form through which they choose to express closeness, being intimate and showing their true feelings. Sex is the only act that allows men to be vulnerable to show their sensitivity to their partner, if they find it difficult to express it in words or through other gestures.
#3. Men are more focused on sex than they should be
Men and women have different ways of expressing their attachment to each other. In general, women express their attachment through the established relationship. Men do this through sex.
Research reveals that we usually stop touching boys when they reach the age of 8 and teach them to deny access to feelings, emotions and emotional vocabulary because these are considered "too feminine". They end up expressing themselves through sex, violence, sports or work.
Therapists should help men break down what they are looking for in sex, in emotional language. They want it too, but often don't know how to satisfy their needs in any other way than sex.
#4. If a man doesn't have an erection, he doesn't love his partner
This is a common misconception among women. For the most part, the woman is the last problem. He may have lost his erotic focus for many reasons - drinking too much, thinking too much about work or finances, his age, health problems, or he may even have untreated sexual abuse issues.
Source: Psychology Today
