Oh! How many times have you happened to come out in front of the mirror and imagine the moment of reunion with the one you broke up with even though you didn’t want to. With what broke your heart along with the dreams you had together ?! You are not alone, it has happened to all of us to live with such a hope, to be freed from the hostages of the past or just longing for an important person in our lives.
Before you decide that you want a date with your ex, ask yourself these questions: What exactly am I looking for in this? What does this man represent to me today? What do I want to show myself by meeting him? Does he / she remind me of a parent figure and past traumas that I still have to face ?!
Write down all these questions and take your time to answer them. By answering yourself you will understand what are the reasons why you want a meeting with your past, with that man who has long since left you.
Maybe your goal is completely naive (because you just need to talk), but before you do it is good to analyze a few things so as not to get confused afterwards.
If you have been thinking about a reunion, what should you consider?
Suppose all the answers led you to the conclusion that yes, you want to meet the ex you never forgot, you need to gather some information about him / her. Do they have another partner now? How would he / she feel if you were to meet again? Has your ex-partner changed? Has he worked with himself? In what conditions are you both at this point in life?
Once you have answered all these questions properly and gathered the necessary information, you are ready for a meeting with the past.
You can take the first step by writing a message as simple as the one you are about to read.
"I think we have both grown enough and things have changed. I have worked with myself and you too. I would like to talk a little with each other."
Maybe this meeting may be the resumption of the relationship or maybe he / she may refuse your invitation. You need to be prepared for any scenario. What you should not forget is that: if in the past toxic behaviors have been present in your report, it is best not to have the courage to retry them as the likelihood of recurrence is high.
