The way we communicate with our partner determines the involvement we have with him, faith, connection and conflicts. If you're curious to know what kind of communication defines your couple, make this short quiz:
As you get ready to sleep, you see the dishes are unwashed, but you just prepared dinner and you're dead. How do you do it?
1- Wash the vessels even though you wish he had washed them.
2- You tell him you're so tired and you'd like him to help you with the vessels.
3- You start screaming because he didn't appreciate the fact that you cooked dinner and that you were going to wash the dishes.
Your partner spends a lot of money to make you a surprise. You're stressed about the budget I've had. What do you do?
1-Enjoy surprise and say nothing about the budget
2- Thank your partner and ask to have a conversation about your spending on the budget.
3- You tell him it was unnecessary and irresponsible of him to spend so much money.
Your birthday is coming and you have great expectations for his gift and the feast that will be organized. How do you do it?
1-Hope he reads your mind and fulfills your expectations
2- Tell him what's on your mind and what you'd like.
3- Wait to see what he thought and express all anger and disappointment if things did not go as you had predicted.
Hmm, you're ready for a passionate night with him. How do you behave in a situation like this?
1- Creates a pleasant atmosphere with candles and music and hopes he understands something.
2- Asks if he's interested in sex and starts kissing him
3- He captures him very passionately and takes the well-being that he will make love to you.
Results:
"1"
If your answers are generally the first option, your communication is passive. You try to avoid conflicts and things you don't like so you don't upset him and yourself. You often feel alone and disappointed because he never understands at the right time how you feel. Sometimes you feel more than charged with the fact that you never open up to him in the name of "healthy" bonding.
"2"
If you have chosen more second options, you have an open style of communication with each other. It is important for you that feelings are expressed even though it is not always simple. You and he feel comfortable after you do that.
"3"
If you generally chose the alternative of 3, communicate slightly aggressively with your boyfriend. Die criticizing, complaining and protecting yourself at any moment.
Which kind of communication is better?
Open communication is considered one of the most functional styles in a relationship as it allows you to respect yourself and your partner as they express their sensations and needs. Being passive, you stop yourself from expressing what you feel and as a result you are charged with very negative emotions. The opposite, being aggressive, you can hurt your partner and create conflicts by turning the relationship into toxic.
Burimi: Psychology Today
