Why Will Smith's slapping 'in the name of love' is dangerous

"Love sometimes makes you do crazy things," Will Smith said in a statement after winning the Oscar on Sunday.

Despite the cliché, according to experts, love has no place for acts of violence, as the consequences that come later are only unhealthy. It is natural when a man sees that one of his family members is being attacked, take it as a personal insult and act to "protect his honor", but that is not the solution.

According to experts, the incident between Chris Rock and Will Smith raises difficult questions for our children.

"Family, especially women are seen as an extension of the man you are, so when she is offended or your children are offended, you suffer the same insult."

For someone who perceives it this way, the first and only solution to restoring family dignity in the country remains a reaction similar to Will’s. Where does this need to react publicly come from?

For people to see that family honor is back in place. According to them, Smith felt ashamed that he initially laughed at his joke towards the woman, or ashamed when he saw Jada's dissatisfied reaction. 

Our society still does not accept enough the fact that a man is sensitive and does not react violently, however the situation. Even when done in the name of love it does not bring any benefit to love, relationship or family. 

People who engage in bad behavior often have a vague sense of why they are behaving in a way that may not be in line with what they are. Immediately after the action they have to justify themselves and find reasons to make the gesture seem appropriate. Whenever we equate love with physical violence or aggression there is a risk that our children will not understand the fact that violence is never good. 

The "macho" mentality is deeply ingrained in the roots of our society and we will need time to re-perceive it differently, but the first step towards this is to condemn acts of violence, or as we might otherwise call "behavior" unhealthy male ". 

Kur janë ende të rinj, burrat mësohen të mos qajnë në sy të të tjerëve apo të mos shfaqin asnjë lloj emocioni. Ajo çfarë ata duhet të kuptojnë tani është se askush s'mund t'i detyrojë të sillen në këtë mënyrë, mund të jenë ata që janë dhe personaliteti nuk është një listë me pika të përcaktuara që kërkon zbatim preciz.

Vajzat dhe djemtë mund të jenë njësoj të ndjeshëm dhe të përdorin forcën e fjalës dhe të mendjes për të zgjidhur situata të tilla,  edhe në emër të dashurisë! 

Adapted from CNN