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Hope things can be fixed. They choose better to believe this theory than to go on living without including the former within it.
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The closure was not what at least you expected. It's hard to be emotionally detached from someone when things do not end as you expect. Often people have question marks, dilemmas, insecurities that remain "hostage" for too long and this does not let them move forward. You never understood what happened.
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You have a misconception about the former. Ignore the bad and the big connection problems and remember only the good times. Make a list and weigh what is worthwhile and what is not.
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Your ex represents the first love for you. He was the man with whom you experienced the first feelings and everything else. Separations are difficult nonetheless, but especially when they occur for the first time.
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You allow yourself neither to despair nor to heal. You are repressed within yourself and this only prolongs the pain process. Accept things as they are, free yourself and seek healing.
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It gives other people no chance. This may happen at first after separation, but it should not last long. Do not compare everyone with the one who ran away.
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Repeatedly you are given to the typology of the former. You still like the same category of people.
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You had dreamed of the future with this man. You had invested in this relationship and now you are at point 0. Do not focus on the idea as it would have been, look for new dreams and opportunities.
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You are in constant contact with your ex. This hinders energy for young people in life. Disconnect as soon as possible.
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You have experienced a loss of your identity during this relationship. This makes it even harder to adjust to social life as you have forgotten who you are outside of this relationship.
Source: Psychology Today
