Psychologists say that if some of you often ask yourself, "Did my childhood affect me negatively?", Chances are you know the answer. However, some of the signs to keep in mind are:
1. Your mood and emotions are not stable . Too often, for people who come from unfavorable early beginnings or traumatic backgrounds, "inner life" often feels like a constant oscillation as to one side, to the other. When you are treated or perceived badly, your confidence drops.
You were feeling very good about yourself, but you got a slightly short email from the boss. Now, feel anxious and constantly ask yourself what you could have done.
It is not uncommon to have challenges with emotional regulation.
2. It is a challenge for you to create and maintain good relationships. You may have many relationships in your life, but they do not look healthy. They do not treat you well and do not respect your dignity and personality enough. It seems to you that worthy men / women are always busy. Always end up with toxic bosses and narcissists.
3. You live every day masking a lack of self-esteem, always feeling like you are lying to others and suddenly you will be "discovered". Feel like you have been handed a guidebook to everyone except you. It seems to you that everything will crumble and collapse in the moment, while you continue to underestimate yourself and your abilities.
4. Feel the need to "escape" often . Repeatedly. Life seems too much for you and, to take care of yourself, you have developed ways to succeed. Ways to escape. You escape the boredom, stress, overload, strain, and emotional pain of your daily life through repetitive, sometimes forced actions or substances.
Whatever the escape looks like, you do it. You find yourself counting the hours until you can escape, relax, disappear.
5. You do not know what is "normal". In fact, there is really no "normal" as long as there is no single black and white way for things to be okay or not okay.
But there is a kind of "normal" in terms of what is healthy and functional versus what is unhealthy and dysfunctional, that people who come from backgrounds with relational trauma, often fail to understand.
Usually, in the work of relating to the recovery of trauma, psychologists break down all the inappropriate beliefs acquired since childhood.
Burimi: Psychology Today
