One moment you are trying to fall asleep, the next moment you find yourself having sex with the boss, with the waiter at the bar where you drank coffee only once, with a man you probably do not even know or with someone you do not even know makes sense, with Shrek for example.
Before you start thinking that subconsciously you may have feelings for any of them, know that a good portion of sexual dreams actually have little to do with the act itself (thankfully). Although dreams of intimacy often seem "normal" when centered around a current or ex-boyfriend, they can also be seemingly illogical and meaningless. However, psychologically there are some explanations and in fact sexual dreams accounted for about 8% of all dreams reported according to a study of over 3,500 people by Antonio Zadra, of the University of Montreal.
- Sexual dreams can connect the feelings of the past with the present
Acknowledge now, at this point, that no matter how many nights you have slept thinking of a sexual interaction with your ex (do not be ashamed that it is something normal and it has happened to you all). Sometimes, it's a beautiful fantasy, other times you wake up with "take it out of your mind, enough, don't do it anymore" thoughts. Either way, sex with your ex is one of the most common ones. According to dream expert analyst Layne Dalfen, sex dreams for ex-lovers can reveal a lot about what is happening in your current life. "Every partner you have ever had, they are in a 'folder' in your mind just like any of the other important relationships in your life," Dalfen explains. Interestingly, the aforementioned study found that 20% of women, compared to 14% of men, showed that in their sexual dreams they have seen current or past partners. If you're sleeping with an ex in your dreams, ask yourself "What are the first things that come to mind when I think of that person?" Whether it is loving nostalgia or rejection, it is likely to have an existing connection to your reality today, to some event that is bothering you or happening in the present.
Sexual dreams can show the desire you have to improve in life
Maybe, your dream of having sex with Shrek is not so meaningless after all. "If you are at a point in life when you really need to say or do something, but you are afraid, you can see as if you are having sex with your boss in the dream, because they, most likely, have that powerful and "You're sure you need yourself at that moment," says Dalfen. to say, then you are probably closer to achieving the characteristic in real life, ”she adds.
- Sexual dreams can directly reflect the situations of the present
Another study has shown that some people have sexual dreams for those who would never want to sleep with, with someone you have rejected several times in real life and in the dream do not think twice to try what it feels like that man in sex.
- Maybe you're just horny
There are times when these dreams do not even need explanation, especially when several days / weeks / months have passed (depending on how long it lasts) without sex. Simply put, a large portion of sexual dreams are to remind you of what it is like to feel good and to maximum satisfaction (thanking dreams when they make us feel super single).
