There is nothing wrong with not having sex, says Janet Brito, a certified sex therapist and founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health. Brito, who has been mentioned in many media articles such as the Huffington Post, Thrive and Healthline, says that "if you are completely uninterested in sex, you do not have to!"
"Nothing will 'break down' or 'age' just because you're not having sex. "The most important thing is to be simply and completely uninterested in sexual activity. It is a choice that must be respected."
So in a world that talks a lot about sex, it can be helpful to understand what it means to not have sex and how to explain it to others. Here is what she writes:
What does it mean if you never want to have sex?
According to adolescent psychology research, an awareness of sexual interest and desire may develop during puberty, but this does not happen to everyone. For some people, interest in sex just never develops.
In a "hypersexual" world, people who are asexual may believe they have "flaws". However, asexuality is not considered sexual dysfunction. Research on the body’s ability to respond to sexual stimuli found that there were no physiological differences between the abilities of heterosexual or asexual women.
Most importantly, there is diversity in sexuality. Everyone is different. Others have chosen not to have sex for many reasons (celibacy).
Even if you constantly hear about the health benefits of sex, not having sex can offer similar benefits, through space to discover new interests, either through sexual fantasy or by experiencing asexual activities that you enjoy; focusing on non-genital organs etc.
If you have lost interest and stop having sex
May mean a renewal time. A time to discover the world and have fun in new ways. Or a period of being honest with yourself.
Nëse në një moment keni ndjerë dëshirë seksuale dhe keni bërë përpjekje për të përmbushur nevojat seksuale dhe tani keni humbur interesin, kjo është krejtësisht në rregull. Ju nuk keni gjithmonë nevojë të dini pse interesat kanë ndryshuar.
Të mos duash të bësh seks nuk është një gjë e keqe, përveçse nëse e besoni se është diçka e keqe dhe fillon të ndikojë në shëndetin mendor ose fizik.
Nëse vërtet jeni të interesuar ta kuptoni, atëherë qëndroni të hapur, kurioz dhe mos gjykoni veten. Nëse ndiheni keq që keni humbur interesin ndaj seksit, punoni për të kuptuar se çfarë ju shkaktoi humbjen e interesit.
It is very important to be honest with yourself about what it means to be sexually active - or if you should be. Do not be pressured by others, but take the time to get to know yourself, understand your needs and how to communicate them to others.
