For some people, flirting with messages comes easily and naturally. They always sound beautiful, fun and sexy, even without trying at all. But for some, sending flirtatious messages or starting a new acquaintance can be a nightmare.
Mourgan Goulet, a licensed therapist for marriage and family, says that "text messaging is much easier because you have time to think about what you are going to say and there is no pressure of eye contact." So take a deep breath and try to have fun.
"Flirting is a skill," says Darcy Sterling, a social worker for Bustle. "Over time you learn what your personal flirting style is, as well as what works and what doesn't."
If you want to improve your flirting game, this message flirting guide will help you!
- How to Start a Flirting Chat Online
Do not start with a super flirtatious message, but start with something more natural. Take it slow. See also how the person on the other side is writing to you, not just what you have in mind to say. Keep positive conversation topics and find ways to show that you are interested in their lives. Ask about their day, how they are spending the evening, etc. and from here they turn the conversation towards a more flirtatious trend. Avoid questions like "what are you going to tell us?" - You wrote to him, what do YOU ??have to say? Here are some messages you can write:
"I hope the day is as beautiful as you."
"The weather outside is very hot. Almost as hot as you are."
"Just a message from you makes me smile."
"Your dog is so cute."
"I can't wait to see you again. Shine yesterday!" (and many, many other ideas)
- What emojis to use?
Monkey faces, a smiling devil, etc. When flirting, be sure to use expressive emojis. Avoid the presence of many hearts, flowers, etc. In the absence of eye contact, emojis with "face" will show more.
- What happens if they do not respond to you, or do not give anything in the conversation
Let’s say you see that the other person lacks the enthusiasm you have. Instead of continuing to flirt or try to flirt, resume your normal messaging style. Give yourself some time and come back again, but also know your limits. If you get to the point where you look annoying, there is no going back.
If you really like this person, you can even show up directly and invite them to a meeting. Thus, you are clearer with yourself, but also the person you are writing to is clearer about you.
Remember to be yourself and realize that even when you share a screen, someone can tell if you are straining too much. Let the conversation and everything else flow!
Experts asked: Morgan Goulet, Darcy Sterling, Ilana Dunn
