When someone changes something in the body, especially in the facial area, it is understandable that people notice the change and thus, ask. But not everyone can feel good about talking about their experience, as long as it is a personal choice, so there are some unwritten rules on how to address someone who has undergone an aesthetic intervention, or so it seems. .
Invited to "Rudina", Eni Çobani was asked by a follower through a video message: "It seems like time has stopped for you. "But have you ever had botox for your face?" (If you are curious, Eni said she did not do botox, but only affected genetics and common facial treatments). The first sentence of the follower is pleasant, it is compliment, while the second sentence is more direct. Absolutely not offensive, but is it more direct than it should be? Hard to give an answer, however it could have been said in another way.
"When we change something the way we look, it's almost automatic for people to react," Mary Mitchell, author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Etiquette, told Mercury News, writing a guide for family, friends and colleagues on how should behave when someone has performed an aesthetic intervention (or appears to have performed).
"It is rude to ask directly. "Wait for them to tell you," she added. "If it's too obvious, go to the person and say, 'Hey, you look so good.' What is your secret? Ask without irony. "
She advises that if you were aware and he / she told you about the intervention in advance, ask first how he / she feels, especially for interventions that are more delicate than botox, for example nose or ear surgery.
In other words: Do not ask bluntly. Create space - through compliments - to say it yourself.
