Shouting in a TV studio and the interruption of normal communication between two or more characters through loud tones and why not insults is not something normal , so not in vain a good part of the public is positioned against Albanian in "Për'Puthen" . Other competitors have also spoken out against it, including opinionist Arjan Konomi. But if we take for granted that Albanian is 100% wrong, there is a very important detail where in fact, it is the public and those present on the show who are wrong.
Albanian can be many things. We quote online comments here: Uneducated. Insults others. Does not communicate properly. Shouts all the time. Or, as other people write, the most real person on the show. However, her case has served, ironically, to understand how uneducated and tactless people can be as long as they use her mental health as something to offend her and turn it into a topic of discussion in the studio.
Albanian can be just an aggressive person, with a bad temper or a person who gets hot quickly. Call it what you will. In the worst case, this condition is a consequence of mental health problems and needs psychologists or psychiatrists. However, it is not the best possible way to discuss her mental health in the TV studio with high-pitched phrases of the type, we quote the words of the opinionist yesterday (October 12), "you want a psychiatrist and I am not a psychiatrist". Consultation with a mental health specialist should be advice, not insult. And if it is advice, it can never come with words like "you want a psychiatrist", especially in a TV studio, in front of a large audience if we refer to the clicks on YouTube.
To suggest therapy with a psychologist or psychiatrist you must first secure a private conversation and wait for the right moment. "Suggesting therapy is a delicate topic that can make anyone feel ashamed or uncomfortable, especially if the conversation takes place between other people present," says Brandi Lewis, who owns Reach Counseling Solutions in North Carolina, a practice center. mental health counseling. She suggests that this topic be opened privately, preferably after a certain situation occurs, but care must be taken. At no point should the mention of the psychologist / psychiatrist be made in the midst of a debate, such as that of Arjan with Albanian. In most cases, this sentence is said to mean that "something is wrong with you" and is not at all effective if we really want to help someone.
“Është shumë e lehtë që dikush të ofendohet nëse u thuhet se kanë nevojë për mbështetje psikologjike,” thotë Christina Iglesia, një psikologe klinike e licensuar që ka filluar fushatën e shëndetit mendor #TherapyIsCool. Sipas saj, është shumë e rëndësishme që njerëzit të tregohen të kujdesshëm kur përmendin specialistët e shëndetit mendor, sepse ndikojnë më tepër në përhapjen e stereotipeve për personat me problematika. “Unë do të të propozoja terapinë, sepse e shoh që po përpiqesh shumë në komunikim me...” është mënyra e duhur, pasi ai/ajo kupton se sugjerimi është këshillë, jo fyerje, dhe vjen nga shqetësimi ose kujdesi që personi tjetër ka për të.
Siç duket, mënyra e të thënit ka shumë rëndësi. Sigurisht edhe vendi ku thuhet. Duhet që njerëzit të tregohen të sjellshëm, me takt dhe dashamirësi. Një gjë e tillë mungon në komentet online.
There are many people who describe Albanian as "schizophrenic", people who probably do not know the difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist and in everyday life mention mental health as an insult to someone. Ironically, the lack of Albanian education shows another side of the coin - how uneducated our society is towards mental health.
