I have been married for over a year and so far, we are very good to each other. We are thinking about living together, but we have one problem that is never solved: the money.
We both have the same salary, I have no debt, and he has some back-to-school years. I'm worried about the way he views our financial past. I have grown well and aware of the advantages it has given me in life. His Mom was barely pushing the month. Occasionally, she lived with my grandmother, and as she told me, they lacked the minimum living.
This is a new problem in our relationship, but I have noticed that it worries him more than it looks. She jokes about me being raised in a wealthy family, how terrified I would be to see my grandmother's house and how she would leave when she needed to take care of her mother. My debts are kept secret and have not introduced me to my family yet, I believe because of shame. I feel very bad but I also feel hurt - don't you think I'm spoiled?
Every time I try to talk about finances, it jokes me away. At what point is he obliged to tell me the truth? What if his financial situation is truly alarming? I'm afraid of being naive.
Adapted from The Cut
