Sexual abuse is a growing phenomenon, the concept of which seems to be confined to abuses committed by strangers in foreign environments. But what most of us do not know is the abuse that comes from a partner or a partner. Such violent relationships often escalate to sexual abuse, but in some cases the victims' reluctance to report is even greater. This has prompted anti-domestic violence groups Refuge and Nia Project, in Britain, to conduct a study of behaviors that lead to abusive relationships. They have revealed 6 key signs that indicate that you are in a relationship with an abusive man.
These groups have tried to dispel the myth that abusers are intoxicated or intoxicated.
According to statistics released by "Nia", 54% of rapes reported to the police were committed by partners or former violent partners. Whereas, data from Britain's 'Office of National Statistics' show that about two women are raped each week by their partners or former partners.
But if you know these signs, you can prevent yourself from living with such a person. Here are what they are:
1. They are more than romantic - but only in the beginning
From the beginning, romance is at its peak. This includes great gestures, gifts, and a display of excessive devotion to you. This is not romantic at all. But it is related to the sick idea of owning you. You are the price he seeks to achieve to satisfy his ego. Abusive men tend to make serious commitments from the beginning, telling you "I love you", asking you to live together, have children, and so on. It all ends after the honeymoon. Their attention falls on you. They become possessive at one point, distanced at another. He seeks to make his partner dependent on him.
2. They want complete control over the people you meet
Part of this is explained as jealousy. They become possessive and demanding. They want to know every detail about you. This means frequent calls and messages. Ask for permission before you meet someone. According to them this is for your benefit, because "they want to protect you from the wild world."
3. They dislike your family and friends
Another sign that he is abusive is when he begins to criticize your social circle. A "they or me" discussion is created. Little by little it starts to take you away from everyone, until you become the only person you can come up with and talk to.
4. They don't let you have your privacy
Especially on social networks you will be under his watch all the time. The story of your actions and the messages you exchange will become its prime target. It will ask for your code and other details of your addresses. This, in their view, is a test of "faith". But even this time, it's just for the sake of checking you out.
5. They call you selfish
In addition to controlling your company, they also control how you spend your money. This does not mean that they love the money for themselves. This is about your self-esteem. They will criticize you for spending money on someone other than him. So they want to lower your confidence in yourself.
6. They are always victims
They never admit they are wrong and are never responsible for the bad things that happen to them. They even blame you for their abusive behavior. "I do it because I love you so much" excuses are common.
Source: The Independent
