Another problematic case of "I want to make you happy" was that of a family of three minor children who were living in economic difficulties.
Rubia, the mother of three, told the show that because she worked in the afternoon, from 4pm until 1pm, her two children, two and five, respectively, were caring for her older daughter, Klodjana, only 11 years old.
Klodjana meets her mother for a few hours a day, as she is at school in the morning, while Rubia is at work in the afternoon. 11-year-olds take care of two and five year olds.
Of course, after the publication of the case, empathy in social networks was natural, given that the phenomenon is widespread in our society. However, there were also those followers who did not receive the opportunity well. One of them wrote in Anabel Magazine on Facebook.
?Well this case left us bad, but they are still adults and decide for themselves, but why not discuss the third case? How is it possible to serve the public? The 11 year old child cares for the 2 year old sister and the 5 year old brother. This is an abuse, a violation of children's rights. And Mom apologizes to the girl. This family was not going to be shown, but associations, social centers and the state have to deal with this problem. How can you leave your baby at home all afternoon with three young children under the care of an 11 year old big girl? Arbana and the staff should not have dealt with this case, but report it to the relevant authorities. Or when there is a calamity, when we hear in the news that three children have been burned or fallen from the balcony, etc., we are sensitized as a society. ?
The Rubies case is not an isolated case, as there are endless families who, because of economic hardship but also mentality, face such a phenomenon, where children assume responsibilities that are unaffordable and impermissible for their development. emotional and physical. By law, parental responsibility includes ensuring the child's emotional, social and material well-being that foster their development. Otherwise, if the obligations are not met, the state has the right to remove custody of the child.
For a more specialized opinion, Anabel.al turned to psychologist Denada Toçe.
?It is very important for children to be involved in siblings, but always in the presence of parents. The moment we turn children into foster carers, we go through neglect and abuse, ?Toche explained.
?Of course we understand the socio-economic and cultural reality and this is a point to consider. But if we become part of a program that Albanians see a lot, we legitimize that this is normal. In fact, it is not normal and we must emphasize the fact that this phenomenon must change. Making it a part of the program, you justify it, creates an emotion in the viewer but turns it into a model. "
What Toce points out is important because it is certainly not the first time we hear or read about such stories, however once the media publishes and is not given a solution, then the situation begins to be treated as normal.
Clodjan was given paintings and paintbrushes to draw, but did anyone ask at what point the little boy would draw? Will she find the time to paint when her mother goes to work in the afternoon and she cares for her other two young children? Wouldn't it be better for the program to contact the Town Hall so that Rubies would accept the children in the nursery? Wouldn't it be better for the program to contact sponsors who could provide a nanny until the family was economically stabilized? Wouldn't a new job be a more valuable gift to the family than some brushes that will never be used?
At the end of the program, Klodjana was given some dresses, and Arbana literally told her, "At least in your house, when they both sleep, you wear nice dresses for your enjoyment." So in other words, when Klodjana end up doing her mother role at night like Cinderella, when she doesn't see anyone, find some time to be a child ...
