In a poll of Anabel.al entitled "Why do you pretend to be in an orgasm?", Girls and women voted as follows (reasons ranged from more votes to less).

1. "I pretend to make her feel good."
2. "I pretend because I know I'm not going to orgasm, I end it."
3. "I lie down because I can't get to orgasm and I think it's my problem, so I feel like I'm enjoying myself to the fullest."
4. "I pretend when I just don't have the nerve."
5. "I pretend because I don't want to make her feel bad."
6. "I'm lying when I just don't like the situation."
7. "I pretend because he / she doesn't enjoy me sexually."

As you can see, a good part of it doesn't go into orgasm, while the rest blame themselves for it.

Starting from the survey, however, let's recall a summary of all the above situations.

Why can't I reach orgasm?

The term "anorgasm" means the difficulty or inability to reach orgasm, despite the stimulation and presence of excitement. Achieving maximum sexual pleasure is not always possible and the reasons for this are many. This concern is present in both genders, both men and women, although statistics show that anorgasm is more common in girls and women.

Anorgasm is often encountered during sexual intercourse between the two partners although orgasm can be achieved by other practices, such as masturbation. There are also cases when individuals do not reach orgasm in any case and often have not achieved it until now.

The most common causes are:

1) Anxiety about the success of sexual intercourse: This prior anxiety damages or limits the intimacy with the partner.

2) Relationship with the body: Anorgasm may occur due to a personal inhibition, which may be provoked by insecurity and lack of confidence.

3) Psychological blockages that may occur because the person has in the past been the victim of sexual violence, which can also cause feelings of loss.

4) Lack of clitoral stimulation: Women feel embarrassed and embarrassed to express their need and often tend to avoid discussing this topic.

5) An Inappropriate Couple: Too often anorgasm is related to a particular partner as the partner has not happened to other partners.

6) The use of narcotic substances and antidepressants also has an impact on orgasm failure and may have an inhibitory effect on it.

7) A Strong Self-Control: In this case, the most susceptible to suffering are the harsh / self-critical persons who find it difficult to let go of these emotional moments.

?Make a list of the things you are looking for in your partner and have the courage to ask for more whenever you are together. These gradual changes work best if you are specific about what you are looking for, if you guide it patiently, if you understand what leads to climax. Most women need clitoral stimulation to get to orgasm. When it does, praise it, maybe return with the same coin. Take the time it takes to teach each partner what they like and how they should treat you. They will appreciate it, even more excited by your excitement. And most importantly, you deserve to get what belongs to you. ?- says Pamela Stephenson Connolly, an American psychotherapist who specializes in sexual disorders.

Myths about women's orgasm

1. Sex is like in movies.
Unfortunately it's never like in movies where orgasm is achieved quickly and simply.

2. Safe sex does not allow you to reach orgasm.
Using a condom does not hinder the achievement of orgasm.

3. Orgasm is the sole target of sex.
Sex can be beautiful even when orgasm is not achieved.

4. Positions don't matter.
Positions are very important as they help to deepen stimulation and facilitate the achievement of orgasm.

5. Orgasm is achieved only by penetration.
It is often said that orgasm is achieved only by penetration, but this is not the case for all women as some can achieve it by other stimuli.

6. All women can achieve successive orgasms.
This is not true as it is not said for all girls and in all cases.

7. All women can reach orgasm with ease.
This is not true because for some women it is not so easy and for some not at all.

8. It's okay to pretend you have reached orgasm.
This does not help your partner improve to change the situation.

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