I met my wonderful husband when I was 18 and married him when I was 20. These happened 16 years ago and since then, we have had a fantastic marriage, but with some problems in sex life. Two years ago, we decided to take control of the situation and visited a sex club, a joint decision that excited us both.
At the same event, we both met people we were spiritually connected to. It was completely unexpected, but now we consider ourselves polyamorous. My husband remains my twin soul and I can't imagine life without him, but I also have a wonderful boyfriend. I also have a new girlfriend - my husband's girlfriend.
At first, we expected to be jealous, but not a bit. Inside our community there is a word for jealousy, "compersion" - the happiness one feels when someone else is happy. Now, we are a family of four, celebrating holidays, going out to dinners and supporting each other in trouble. Moreover, we give each other permission to have sex with ordinary people if the desire arises.
Not everyone can do this, but this special bond has brought us closer to each other. The trust between us is unbreakable and we love our partners so much. There is no secret and communication has improved significantly. We choose to be together as we explore all of the extraordinary opportunities life offers us.
Written by an anonymous woman for The Guardian
