My husband betrayed me with a colleague. When I found out and confronted her, she told me she was just emotional, but had sex a weekend away from the city. Everything was made worse by that moment. It's the most terrifying thing that has ever happened to me. The husband is committed to our marriage again and we are trying to accept what happened, but it is very difficult and I want to know how to collect myself.
Although I don't have many details from the weekend they spent together, the ones I have are killing me spiritually. I imagine them together all the time. She told me that she seemed more attractive to me and when I told her she was probably better than me in bed, he was silent. I know that logically, sex with another partner, in secret, is more seductive. All the logic of the world would not save me from the uncertainty and resentment it is causing me.
My husband is the only partner I have had in life. We got hooked on teens. I feel unable to cope with what happened. Part of me wants to have sex with someone just to balance the situation, but I have no idea how to find someone or where. He doesn't have a bad idea, which makes me feel worthless because he cares. My question is: how to stop thinking about the two of them together? How to regain self-confidence in bed? How do I get ahead?
From an anonymous woman about Slate
