Too little in life hurts enough to be betrayed by someone you love and trust. It makes you lose faith in people, in yourself. And moreover, the consequences remain with you long.
If you are hooking up with someone who has been betrayed before, you should consider not saying one of the following phrases, or a version of them. Even if you can't betray yourself, you can still hurt your partner with your behavior, without understanding.
1. "You're bringing out your insecurities"
Don't accuse him of blaming you in vain, but ask what you can do to stay close to him and make him feel more secure in himself.
2. "It's not for you"
If you are asked where you are going or what you are going to do and you give an evasive answer, be prepared to be questioned. The seemingly secretive behaviors recall past relationships and make them feel suspicious, without cause.
3. ?I'm different. I would never betray you ?
All those who betray say they will never betray.
4. "You're becoming paranoid"
When you dismiss their feelings, make them feel that past traumas are their fault. However, after reassuring your partner that you are committed, it is best not to sacrifice friendships or activities simply because he may be concerned.
5. "I'm not making this conversation anymore"
Do not get frustrated or avoid a repeat conversation because it simply raises doubts. Try to find out where the problem really is. Doesn't your partner get upset when you go out with a specific person? Or when you're late for work three nights in a row? Get to the root of the problem.
6. "You have to give up the past"
To give up the past must be spoken and accepted. Ignoring what happened does no good to anyone.
