Sometimes you meet someone and you do not even have the idea that your world will radically change. This happened to me when I met him, a 29-year-old single son. It was all I wanted and more than that: intelligent, delightful and very passionate. But all these qualities that made it perfect came along with a baby.
He and his ex-girlfriend had become parents a few months before I met him. At first this was not a problem for me because I always loved my children, but when you are involved in a relationship, things are not the same. Although I grew up with separate parents I had no idea how complicated, it was stressful to raise a baby and at the same time keep in touch with someone.
My link did not work and I'm alone now, but what I would like to know before this story are the factors below.
1. Jealousy should be set aside.
When you come out with a single dad, you must remember that his former will always be present. In the life of a child, both parents need it and this is understandable.
His ex-girlfriend was always around us. They fought for the appointment to the doctor for the next holidays and this was something I needed to get used to. It in one way or another would always be there.
2. You must learn that you are not your priority!
All parents first decide their children. It was difficult for me to initially admit that attention would not be all focused on me. It was not when I needed something or when I needed support. Must be with my son and I understand !
3. Child is a completely different world!
Before I met him, I believed so much in my ability to raise a baby. I quickly learned that I did not know anything. Every day I lived with the little boy challenging me and I learned something new. There are some things about parenting that no one learns unless he keeps that little creature in his hand.
4. The need for "little time alone" takes on a whole new meaning
After a tiring day at work, all I wanted to do was lie with her and watch TV. This did not happen often because one day he was at work, another day would have to spend time with the little one. Again I had to understand it!
5. Even division is more difficult!
When I fell in love with her, I did not plan to be in love with her. What you know now is that when you connect with a single baby boy, they are two people who go hand in hand. I spent a lot of time with her and saved the most beautiful memories with his son.
In the end, you remember that he is not your son, no matter how heartfelt you are or how you lack. The truth is that when you divorce with his / her parent you will be separated with him. And yes, it makes it twice as difficult!
