"After 16 years, I and my partner lived a life without surprises, with the exception of some conflicts, we were very much in a position to deal with our open relationship, both of whom were lovers, but we always had the needs of each other first. also independent.
What happened surprised us both: we loved the same beautiful guy. He lived abroad, so it was a celebration, groups on WhatsApp and Skype phones. One day, we joked, that we all lived as a "trift" (couple, but with three people, Trift.) That day we got a call: "I'm moving to the UK." Would it work?
We did not look back. Beyond my fears, he did not threaten our life-long relationship; in fact, was an improvement. We lived in four relationships: he and my partner, me and that partner and me, and in all three: the four unique and fulfilling.
Four years later, he left the United Kingdom and we took measures. A year later, the situation became unmanageable, especially for it.
Eighteen months later, he told us he was going out with someone else. It was clear that our time had come to an end. My partner and I supported each other: for me, this end was devastating.
The six years we spent together as trift changed everything. We were not two plus one: we were three. Now we are two again, but not the same as before. We are in the embarrassed position of behaving as a couple again, filling the space left by him with pain. "
Written by an anonymous man for The Guardian
