"I am a 36-year-old married woman and finally discovered that my husband betrayed me. She told me she did not have sex with her, she was just too close to another woman for a few weeks. I decided to forgive him and try to fix things with her. We have had sex twice since I learned about betrayal, but I can not make it into orgasm, which makes me feel very bad as a wife and as a woman. Is his psychological problem or is he betraying me again - or am I thinking more than I should? He says I do not know the cause, but that is not my fault. "
Pamela Stephenson Connolly, a psychotherapist specializing in sexual disorders, answers "
Try to believe it. Male orgasms are incomprehensible and sometimes mysterious - even to the god of the penis. He certainly feels guilt, confusion, and anxiety, affecting his ability to ejaculate. Everyone's sexual responses relate to total peace of mind in the couple. In your case, the relationship is severely damaged.
However, if you want to stay with each other, the erotic relationship will improve over time. Accept that it is not your fault and do not put yourself in the mind that you are not attracted to you. People betray for many reasons and many of them have nothing to do with sex. But the loss of faith in the couple after a betrayal takes time to be repaired. During the recovery period, it is normal for your sexual relationship to be affected or even missed.
Of course, the fact that you feel betrayed and disappointed will do it yourself. Try to be patient. Focus on free time, have fun together and do not pay much attention to the quality of spending time in bed.
Taken by The Guardian
