Phrases such as “Don’t ask for too much, be grateful for what you have” are common in many families and are often said with good intentions. They imply humility and appreciation for what we have achieved. However, in some cases, these words can create invisible limitations that affect our self-confidence and decisions in life.
How does this way of thinking affect you?
A phrase like this can affect the way someone sees themselves and their possibilities:
Limits ambition - When someone gets used to the idea that they shouldn't ask for more, they may feel hesitant to pursue their dreams or take the risks necessary for personal and professional development.
Increases fear of change - Staying in a comfort zone, even when it is no longer appropriate, can come from the belief that seeking something better is wrong.
Affects self-esteem - People may feel guilty about their desires or think they don't deserve more than they have.
How do we free ourselves from such limitations?
Recognize the impact of words you hear often
Repeated words from family or social circles can shape our beliefs without us realizing it. It's important to reflect on them and ask ourselves: Is this way of thinking helping me, or hindering me?
Gratitude doesn't mean not aiming for more.
Appreciating what you have is important, but that doesn't preclude the desire to grow and seek new opportunities. You can be grateful for your current successes while simultaneously working towards more.
Learn to ask for what you deserve.
In many cases, people hesitate to ask for a raise, a promotion, or new opportunities for fear that they are asking for too much. Instead of dwelling on what you think you should accept, focus on the value you bring and the opportunities you deserve.
Don't let the fear of failure stop you.
The thought that “it’s better to stay where you are” can come from the fear of failure. But failure is part of growth and often a stepping stone to success.
Surround yourself with people who support your ambitions.
An environment that encourages personal and professional development helps to create a healthy mindset. Seek inspiration from those who have dared to follow their own path and strive for more.
Words and inherited beliefs can influence our decisions more than we realize. It is important to recognize the limitations they can create and work to overcome them. Aiming for more does not mean a lack of gratitude, but a desire for greater growth and fulfillment.
