The thoughts, concerns and experiences of people who have experienced trauma as children or as adults are very present in our lives, or those around us. We have selected some experiences that these people usually have, so that they feel that they are not alone, but also that they are better understood by others.
Even situations that are not very serious, appear as such
Trauma convinces the brain to go into a state of danger and transmit stress and anxiety, even in situations that at first glance do not seem so serious.
Desire to use alcohol or drugs
In both cases, people feel disconnected from reality and the pain of the moment, looking for something that gives them security and relieves them of stress.
The thought that only you are suffering
Usually, people dealing with trauma think that everyone else has a perfect life. According to them, as a result of the traumas, they are the only ones who suffer and very often compare themselves with others.
Create scenarios
There are many cases when people who have various traumas, especially from their parents, wonder what their lives would be like if they had loving or more responsible parents.
"Am I too broken for others to love me?"
People who have been traumatized experience friendship and romantic breakups much worse. They think that in these cases, it is their own fault and that they are too broken and damaged to receive love from others.
You always walk away from something
The way you grew up "forces" you to constantly withdraw from different thoughts or situations. Thus, it all becomes exhausting and often, you find yourself mentally and spiritually exhausted.
You tend to sabotage close relationships
No matter how much you love someone, you tend to sabotage and end the relationship because you feel that sooner or later it will happen and you won't hurt yourself.
Re-watching the same series over and over
Do you often find yourself watching "Friends" or "The Office"? This shows that perhaps he is looking for the same social and family harmony that these series provide.
Spends a lot of time making others happy
In practice, you live for others and sacrifice a lot of yourself to make them happy and comfortable, because you think that if you don't do these things, others will forget you and never speak to you again. .
