When something traumatic happens (like the November 26 tragedy), the consequences are felt in every aspect of our lives. The symptoms of a traumatized person are easy to discern, it is enough to see his behavior and interaction with others.
Survivors of a tragic event have a change in their relationship to their relationships. They no longer get the same pleasure from the relationship, their sexual activity decreases, their desire for communication and intimacy.
But how does trauma affect intimate relationships?
1. Isolation from the partner.
2. Feeling frustrated, confused and bored.
3. Increased anxiety
4. Emotional and physical avoidance in relation to the partner
How can you help your partners overcome this situation?
You should know that the process of healing from trauma takes time. The brain needs time to process information after trauma. The best thing you can do is listen to them. Support them emotionally and show them you're there. "I know that what you are going through is difficult." - is the sentence you have to repeat over and over again to show them all your attention.
Don't take any behavior of your partner in those moments. Remember that he is going through a difficult period. Traumatized people feel more emotionally withdrawn, so they often don't want to have any physical relationships.
Do not allude to his / her refusal.
It's important to communicate to see what they want and how they would like to reconnect with you. If you make it feel trivial, your relationship can have long-term consequences.
Experts suggest traumatized human partners to: Listen, observe, verify, be empathetic, and provide unconditional help.
For the traumatized person:
Do not hesitate to constantly communicate with your partner. If you do not want to give details, tell him / her what you are feeling and what would be best for you.
Remember that there is always hope! A relationship can only save trauma if both parties are willing to contribute to relieve the pain and the consequences.
