5 mental traps that are keeping you single - even if you're a fantastic person!

Photo: Dakota Johnson in "How to be single"

Often, the problem isn't others. It's your mind that's stopping you from moving forward in love.

If you think that great people are always in love, you're wrong. Even the best of us get stuck in mental traps that keep us stuck, even though we have it all on paper. Instead of moving forward, we remain hostage to old ideas, fears we've never faced, and unrealistic standards.

Here are 5 thoughts that could be the reason why you're still single, even though you're basically fantastic.

1. You're looking for the "perfect" one that doesn't exist.

You're obsessed with the idea of ??a relationship that works like in 2004 romcoms. Reality? Love takes work, patience, and compromise. People aren't perfect, and that's okay. Strong relationships are built, not found.

2. You don't know your worth yet.

If you don't see yourself as someone who deserves true love, you'll accept whatever half-hearted emotion comes your way. Your worth is not determined by anyone else. Your worth is the love you have for yourself.

3. You're afraid of being happier in a relationship.

It seems paradoxical, but it's true: some people are afraid of happiness because it brings risk. When you risk loving someone, you can get hurt. But if you don't, you're just living in a faded version of yourself.

4. “It’s not the right time” is just an excuse

There's always a deadline , a project, an "I'll be ready when..." But love doesn't come when you're "ready" according to your plan. It just happens. You have to be there when it happens.

5. You've lost hope because you've been burned before.

A tired heart is understandable. But being cynical doesn't protect you from pain, it just keeps you away from new opportunities. Life can surprise you if you open the door.