Coming across as smart and emotionally intelligent isn't just about the idea you're trying to convey, it's also about how you say it.
People often use complex words and expressions to appear more profound and insightful. This can actually have a negative effect, leaving the other person feeling self-conscious and judged.
The next time you're talking to someone, try using these three simple expressions that are actually mostly used by people with high emotional intelligence:
#1 "Can you tell me more about this?"
When someone confides in you, especially about something sensitive or important, your first thought should not be a judgment call. People with a high emotional quotient ask questions that make the person in front of them feel heard and accepted, and push them to new details and long, bare-bones narratives.
#2 “I think...”
When you're correcting someone or giving an opinion, saying "that was the problem" comes across as offensive and rude. People with high awareness and intelligence avoid these types of statements. In fact, they become more receptive to the opinions and judgments of others, giving their ideas very simply and without too much pomposity.
#3 "Can you give me some advice?"
As strange as it sounds, asking for advice can make you look smarter. After all, it takes some emotional intelligence and self-awareness to know that you don't know the answers to every situation or event. One of the biggest obstacles to making an approach is anxiety, and it stops you from taking the first step that could lead to a key business contact, a new opportunity, or a romantic partner. So, don't hesitate whenever you feel you need advice.
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Source: CNBC
