Many people think that the boring routine of a healthy relationship indicates that the relationship between the couple is over, but it is not. Why sometimes the emotionally stable partner, the one who gives you security, stability and care becomes "tiring" again?! For the 3 reasons below:
1. You are used to being involved in relationships with many emotional ups and downs
If your past relationship was full of ups and downs, tension was part of the relationship. The moment you find yourself in a healthy relationship, where there is no room for anxiety or uncertainty, after a certain time you feel a kind of boredom.
This happens because you have taken the relationship with your partner well and tensions are absent. When you meet someone who is emotionally stable and does not cause you feelings of anxiety or insecurity, you think that the chemistry between you is missing and you perceive the relationship as boring.
2. From an early age you are accustomed to the idea that extra effort is the cost of your well-being
If you grew up in a family where you had to prove yourself for the things or love you deserved, you will most likely do this in romantic relationships as well. You try to "fight" for the things you want, but in healthy relationships they come naturally. They just happen. This after a period of time seems "boring" because you need the uncertainty you are used to, you need to constantly prove to people what you can achieve and what you deserve.
3. You see a healthy relationship as boring
It's your misperception. If you grew up with the idea that romantic love is only passion, tension, crazy chemistry, insecurity, struggle then you are more likely to go for partners who avoid you or are not emotionally ready for a relationship.
For this very reason, a steady relationship would tire you out and find you boring as a part of you craves the dynamism that in the long run is certainly tiring and costly.
Source: Psychology Today
