Have you started to wonder why nothing in your love life lasts or isn't the way you want it to be? We know very well that relationships are hard, just as the world of dating is hard.
Usually, most of us blame external factors or other people for this situation. But have you ever considered that you might be sabotaging your own love life?
1. You choose people who are not right for you.
The first sign may have to do with the people you choose to be around. Have you ever dated or been in a relationship with someone who didn't appreciate you or give you the attention you wanted? Can you remember a relationship where you gave it your all, but the other person didn't appreciate it?
Then it's possible that past traumas are holding you back, and as difficult as it may be to recognize a person's negative traits at the beginning of a relationship, as long as you don't ignore the "red flags."
So, give up from the start!
2. Staying in a toxic relationship for a long time
Based on the above element, we can easily stay in a relationship that doesn't offer us what we want in the hope that everything will change. Love is a feeling. However, for a relationship to succeed, other elements are also required, such as communication and respect. If someone loves you, they will try to understand your needs and respect them, just as you will do the same for theirs.
If the opposite happens, it will be apparent quite early in the relationship, so it's best to walk away when you realize it and not hope for anything different in the future.
3. Operates under a regime of fear
The third way you sabotage your love life has to do with fear and the decisions you make based on it. Instead of doing things because you want to, you do them because you have to, and you're afraid to follow your instincts, which are telling you to enjoy the life you want.
You have to make difficult decisions that will take you out of your comfort zone if you are going to move forward in life.
In the end, don't forget to tell yourself that you are worth it and don't deserve anything that doesn't make you happy.
Source: Marie Clarie
